Friday, December 31, 2010

182/365 Freaky Weather

New Year's Eve was creepy warm. Highs in the 60s and the tornado sirens went off. We went to the basement because Fiona is a bit concerned about storms. The girls set up tents and played their DS's while I did some filing and Mike listened to the weather radio. The "squall line" passed us without incident, just heavy rain. But a tornado touched down west of us and north of us. So it was prudent to hide.

After, the sky cleared and it was still warm. Children played together, forced outside by parents who can read weather reports and know the cold is returning.

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

181/365 A photo of ridiculousness

Still in process. Waiting for the new year? Thaw? Who knows?

Tuesday, December 28, 2010

180/365 Winter Wonderful

It's stressful to live in what is essentially a southern city with occasional northern weather. We don't get a lot of snow, but we get some every year. Usually 1-5 inches at a time, sometimes as much as 9. I saw 18 inches in 24 hours when I was a kid here in St. Louis, but that was a long time ago.

The worst is the layer-cake phenomenon here. You get a couple inches of snow. Then it warms up enough to start to melt, just in time for night to hit and drop us into freezing again--creating a sheet of ice on the streets and most surfaces. If you're lucky, then it'll snow two days later, and then perhaps some freezing rain or sleet on top of that. By the time you coast down my street trying to get somewhere you have to be, it's a skating rink and ski slope all in one. And our street doesn't get plowed--not that it doesn't get plowed until later, until after the big streets are plowed. It doesn't get plowed. It's a gentle glide to a busy street that is clear pretty soon after the snow or freezing rain is dealt with--so cars are going the speed limit as you drift out into traffic.

It makes me glad I can do things on foot if I have to.

But it's pretty.

Monday, December 27, 2010

179/365 He is a Nowegian Forest Cat After All...


The two domestic shorthair cats slept the snow away on my bed with the heated mattress pad. Surely Blackjack can't remember his winter as a kitten in Benton Park, but either way, they weren't interested.

But Bleys was. He likes the snow. He likes to return to the warm after a venture out, but his fluffy coat ain't just for show.

Sunday, December 26, 2010

178/365 Zelkova


It's a pretty little tree, the replacement for the American Elm. It gets the same vase-shape to its branches. The Paxtons planted it when their maple died suddenly one summer. Here it is in the snow.

Saturday, December 25, 2010

Friday, December 24, 2010

Thursday, December 23, 2010

175/365 What is that ridiculousness?

They've dug up the end of my street. I say "they" in the Russian way. As in, "They took Oleg away" or "They built Novosibirsk." They have dug up my street.

I figured it was the sewer. There's always something with these old streets and sewers. I paid it no mind. It meant I had to make a U-turn on my one-way street this past week, which always makes me feel like a CRIMINAL, but I figured it'd be over in a few weeks. Thaw and freeze and thaw again and they'd patch it back up and that would be that.

Nope.

It's the monuments. Barb Brunwin called me on my cell phone 4 times in one day to ask if I knew what was going on. She's the block captain behind me. And she's mad that they didn't consult her. I won't go into too many details because it makes my head hurt.

It was part of the bait and switch on the corner, the condo development that got a big 4 car driveway illegally but maybe not? No, definitely illegally. And then we fought that and then we got diagonal parking for the building. Maybe with ceded right of way but maybe it was just a Brooklyn Bridge kind of deal. I don't know. Or, obviously, CARE ANYMORE. But somewhere in this the condo owner and our gentleman alderman kind of bribed us with "monuments" at the end of our street, supposedly matching the ironwork at the gates to the park across the way.

Well, none of the plans were exactly what we would have wanted and nobody, I think, maybe a few but not the majority, didn't care that much. And once we turned on the condo developer and testified against his driveway, we figured that was the end of that.

But no. We have little concrete bumpouts now. And gates are coming. Sort of. We'll have to wait and see. And Barb will have to take a valium and stop worrying so much.

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

174/365 Prayer for After Snow

Dear Lord, please keep me sane and peaceful. Outside the ground is white and smooth. My mood is not. My children have tracked in leaves, mud, ice, and salt all over my front hall floors. No one has put away a single boot, mitten, or scarf. But I do not lament. I love snow. Thank you for the snow. Please Lord, grant me coffee and patience.

Sunday, December 19, 2010

173/365 kids in the snow

Try it, you'll like it.

Fiona is convinced.
Daisy is not.

And Billy? Could he look more like a mean kid?

Friday, December 17, 2010

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

171/365 Secret Santa

It's altoids. A bird ornament. Chocolate. Happy.

Kids are too. But who cares about them? :^)

Saturday, December 11, 2010

170/365 So So Long Ago




Taken the Sunday before Thanksgiving.

It was 75 degrees.

Thursday, December 9, 2010

169/365 Woolly Bear

The cat is back. It's cold--very cold--and he's come back to sit on my porch and drive my cats crazy. Patiently sit until he sees me. Then he meows. I approach with cat food. He hisses, his breath a puff of smoke. I fill his bowl. Growl. Hiss. I back away. He eats.

Whatever.

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

168/365 Mah jongg update

I didn't write about our last mah jongg event. Deer season. Jake was gone and I needed some distraction. I got it, in the form of White Russians and pumpkin pie. And then I returned it at about 2 that morning. But that was later.

White Russians. But Jackie and Tara were calling them "chocolate martinis." Bullshit. They were kahlua, vodka, and half and half. And they were really good. And I will never ever have another as long as I live.

Seriously.

Anyway, back in September we played mah jongg and, as Zelda put it, it was the least satisfying mah jongg night ever. We played 3 hands. Only 3 of us were on the list of what I'd call serious players--and that's kind of a stretch for Jackie, but she likes to play and always does. Zelda, Jackie, and me. Cicely obliged us and was the fourth on the hands, as we sat there listening to several new gals from our block say that they weren't smart enough to learn this game.

And I'm too tired to teach you, I thought to myself. I love teaching mah jongg (or anything, really) but that night, I just wanted to play. Ah well.

So my invite list was short: only the serious players because I wanted to play. Chat, sure, eat pumpkin pie and drink things no one should drink, of course, but really play. So Zelda, Tara, Valerie, Gretchen, and Jackie came over. Joy couldn't make it.

And we played. I won on a closed hand. So did Gretchen. We drank. We celebrated good news on the health front for one of us who was facing some uncertain scary diagnoses (or lack thereof). We talked religion. Gretchen said she was going to win me for Jesus. No, actually, I said that to Zelda about Gretchen. We were all perfect and hilarious and didn't have a care in the world. And we played until Gretchen, Tara, and I were too drunk to name the tiles. Then they went home.

We have to do this more often so I (and others) don't feel like we have to go, well, quite so overboard when we do get together. This was like a thunderstorm, a waterfall, a deluge. What we need is some spring rain. Some every 3rd Friday kind of set up just for those of us who want to play. Those of us who know each other best and we'll be nice some other time.

Sunday, December 5, 2010

167/365 Lady Santas

The women on the block also do a secret santa exchange, with a slightly higher dollar amount (5/5/5/25). These are always trickier to monitor than the master list of kids, of course. In the past, Jake has run it just to be sure--if someone is absent for the draw, for instance.

This year, though, Gretchen was passing, as was Joy. So they picked for Christy and Cicely and got information out to them.

I drew Nikki's name. Of all the women in the draw, the one I know the least--both for the shortest amount of time and least amount of contact. Not a mah jongg player, for instance. Newest on the block. But her suggestions on the slip of paper (just in case) were easy enough. I'll do fine.

Friday, December 3, 2010

166/365 Secret Santa

(I'm going back to fill in, but only every other day--it'll take me longer than a year but it will still work out).

We do secret santas on the block. Moms stand out on the sidewalk and sit on Gretchen's steps. I write a list of all the participating kids (a few families don't, and babies don't):

Fiona
Daisy
Bree
Noah
Eliza
Sebastian
Auggie
Kendall
Iris
Naomi
Anton
Micah
Lark
Reggie
Mitch
Bonnie Dee
Rickie

And then Valerie picks out one name at a time. Except for a few requests from moms: Zelda really wanted Bree to have a girl this year (she'd had several years of boys); and nobody can give to siblings, it is randomized. I make the list, and send it out via email. We let each other know about preferences (Anton likes white chocolate, Mitch only likes Nestle Crunch), and we try to limit it to $1 a week for three weeks. At the end, a $5 gift exchange.

It makes my kids' December. Totally. More than Advent calendars and wreaths or holiday baking or carols or specials on TV. Secret Santas are the best.

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

165/365 Eyesore

I like to say I live in the worst house on the best block. And in many respects this is true (in all respects, in my opinion, the second part is true--it's the first part that is debatable). Yes, I do have the worst porch. Most everyone has a roof, except for Gretchen, and she at least has a porch made of concrete and stone. Mine is a deck. It would be cute on the back of somebody else's house. It is not cute anywhere attached to mine. I almost didn't buy the house because of the porch.

And the interior of my house aspires to be considered wabi-sabi. It is semi-baby-proofed live-with-it-for-now. Most of our furniture has been passed to us or came to us used; some of that is really good stuff and others? Eh. For now. Our floors are pine and we still don't have baseboards in the all the rooms, etc., etc., etc.

But this house really is the worst.

On the corner. It stands empty and has for at least 12 years. Hill House had stood for 90 years and might stand for 90 more...the owner bought it for a song, which makes sense considering it was falling apart. When my parents moved to town he tried to sell it to my dad, but my dad saw that it was the proverbial Money Pit and declined the offer. Our alderman has leaned on the owner, Dwayne Farthing, and threatens him with blighting and seizure of property every so often so that Dwayne does the minimum amount of work to keep it looking like it's under construction instead of abandoned.

He's been working on it for years. Like a decade. Through a nasty divorce, his kid growing up, his father's death--the house is the constant. And all the time and money he's sunk into it--I can't see him ever recovering what he's lost.

I don't care much, though, because he's shifty and made me feel unsafe on my own street more than once. But that's a story for another time.

This is simply a demonstration of the kind of "work" he does. Everybody on our street, hell, on the south side, has a porch that leads to a short sidewalk that leads to at least one step (we have four) down to the sidewalk. Different kinds of houses, different sizes of front yards, but there's a thin strip of concrete leading away from the house. Some folks have busted up the concrete and put in brick or something else that feels more English country home-esque, perhaps, but the majority of us (we're sort of a no-nonsense crowd in south city) look at that walk and think "that's a solid chunk of concrete, why bother it?"

Dwayne didn't like the concrete. And he's the type who always tries to gussy up something that should be allowed to be honest and plain. But he's also a classic short-cut man. So he didn't bust up the concrete. He just paved it with flagstone.

Loose flagstone. He didn't mortar it together or grout or even really attach it to the sidewalk itself. So now, instead of a utilitarian simple unobtrusive path, he has a safety violation. On our walk a few weeks back when I took these photos, Billy climbed up onto this path and immediately stooped down to pick up one of the rocks, which were really too heavy for him but he managed for a moment until he got bored. You can see him there, rearranging:

It's like a dress that's had too many alterations. What a shame.